Lou Sanders has made a lot of mistakes in her life. But are they really mistakes? Or are they actually just hot little pockets of damp shame that have muddled her and made her unhappy? As a nation, the British have never been particularly good with shame, but whatever you've done that you're ashamed of, Lou has been there, done that and vomited all over your t-shirt. Weird family? Lou's dad is a convicted con artist on his 5th wife. Poor choice in partners? Lou dated a man over 40 when she was 15. For six months. Why is she telling us all this? Because she believes, passionately, in getting rid of shame and seeing it as a blessing. Only then can you free yourself: only then can you live, laugh, and yes, actually, love.